A handful of Hearts

No new stuffs today. After my earlier post, this is what I came up with.

a Victim of bullying

Today I want to write a post that is very personal to me. About bullies and their victims. I don't know why people bully others and what it is that makes people become victims. I think maybe it is just the timing when these things occur. Sometimes you escape from the vicious circle, sometimes you get trapped in it.

When I was 8 years old, there is this girl who was bigger than me and she was my friend or so I thought because being a shy, quiet girl, anyone speaking to me I assumed liked me and was my friend. We hanged out together a lot in school. One day, I was playing with her pen and I accidentally dropped it and I was certain it wasn't broken but she insisted it was and demanded that I pay for it. RM$50 for it. Back then, RM$50 was probably like RM$200. A whole lot of money. I realised later when I was older that that freaking pen was probably only a few dollars. She would harass me everyday. Until one day I did the worst thing a child would do. Steal money from their parent. I avoided her after that and would go home as fast as I could once school was over. Fortunately, we moved away soon after that. It helps being an army brat. You don't stick around too long.

As a parent I try to protect my children as best I could. I had no idea my youngest child was also bullied. She was small for her age. And a little slow in understanding what was going on in school compared to her elder siblings. I only saw this aspect so I send her for tuition and it had helped her a lot in her studies. As the years pass, she became a straight A student and went on to be a prefect in secondary school. This was when the bullying became worst. From no other person than the head prefect. By then my daughter has turned out into a very pretty girl. Beauty with brains. I think you know where this is leading. The head prefect was not and she would try to force my daughter to do things and my daughter would stand up for herself and for others who were bullied. It got really bad when the prefect found my daughter's blog and showed it to her mother and that mother in turn showed it to the principal. Unfortunately,  my daughter had bitched about the prefect in her blog and her words were not exactly lady-like. Also unfortunate, those people were connected.

My daughter got suspended from school and that was went she went into depression and we had to seek medical help. We moved her to another school and thank God the administrations and teachers there were very supportive of her. By the time she left school a year later, she was their top student.

3 years later, my daughter has a semester left of college and she's still a top student and she achieved her ambition to be on the cover of a fashion magazine. She told me she wanted to stick her face in theirs. Hah what better way!

And the bully? Who cares!

What I'm saying is, victims of bullies need to have the support of their communities apart from their parents, families and friends. Children can be mean but when you're a young child, it can be very difficult to get over the scars. Too bad parents do not remind their children to be kind to others often enough because this is where it all starts in my opinion.

So to all bullies out there. Your parents did not do a good job raising you and I hope you will do a better job raising your own.

Sheer tops from ALB

I'm into these colourful patterned tops from ALB. They are sheer and they don't have alpha because what is the point of sheer if you wear an alpha? It would also look weird. Anyway, the long hair covers modesty well enough.
There are 15 different colours and patterns. Some have the same pattern but different colour combination. I got so confused, I missed one and I have no idea which one I left out. It became too tiring my avie had to go raid the fridge:)

Week1:Cotton Candy

I decided to join the 50 shades of sexy challenge because it's not easy being sexy. So it's going to be a challenge for me. I wanted to do a non lingerie post, but I think I will wait for another time because when I think of sexy, the first thing I think of is underwear and bunnies. Go figure!

Skin:PXL faith olive
Bunny ears:+mocha+ Snow Bunny(past gift)
Jewellery: Donna Flora Sea Blood
Hair:Diva(Collabor January)
Lingerie:Insolence Leia Misty Rose Bra outfit(not sure if it's still available)
Shoe:PM Baby T Pale Pink
nails:Mandala

keep calm

I thought I could keep my cool when shopping at January's Collabor. I waited a whole week so that the crowd would die down.

I changed my outfit while I shop. How embarassing is that? Not very much because I do that in rl with shoes all the time. I don't look at other people when I shop so I just assume they don't either so....
When I got back, I hopped on the pose and took this shot.

Hair: D!va Hair Asami(Collabor)
Jewellery:(Yummy) Teardrop Gemstone Set-Ruby(Collabor)
Dress: Ingenue :: Metallisk :: Gold(Collabor)

Princess

When I saw this dress from Liv-Glam it reminded me of a retro princess. I love retro dresses. Nice that fashion always go in circle and now, strangely, it's staying. Does it mean designers have run out of ideas for the ordinary people? I'm not talking avantgarde fashions. Who wants to wear that kind of clothings as everyday wear?
Moon is wearing the xxs size. The dress is a bit on the big size.

Another dress from Liv-Glam. I like the turtle neck collar. Used to be with sculpt, this kind of collar always fail to sit well. This dress has a hud with other colour options and it was only 55L so that's a bargain. Moon is wearing the xs size.

I'm using the poses from Di's Opera.

shopping

This dress is very similar to Kungler's Loulou dress and since I loved that dress, I had to get this one at the TDR fusion. I usually wear this dress with long wavy(flexi parts) to hide the shoulders near the neck because the dress cut into the skin. Mesh is weird like that. The ankle boots are from Ison FLF. The bag and earrings are past hunt items at Purplemoon and the bracelet was a gift from past Jewellery Fair.
Last, I am using a pose from Di's Opera. There's a 50% sale on fatpack going on at the moment till end of the week.
Of course when my avie moves around SL, I loose the bag and the glasses. Otherwise I start feeling weird.